Have you let it go yet?

Do you have a ‘thing’ that just keeps creeping up in your mind at times when you just don’t need it?

We hang on to ‘mental stuff’ after suffering adversity and it just keeps haunting us until we finally need to say goodbye to it, for good!

It’s like a monkey sitting on our backs. Well it’s time that monkey needs to get off!

3 simple steps when feeling overwhelmed from adversity:

  1. Find a peaceful place away from noise or chaos
  2. Breathe deeply from the diaphragm, counting to 10 on the in and 10 on the out breath for 5 minutes
  3. Look at the BIG picture and establish is this worth the worry it is causing you and let it go, it is a story in your head replaying over and over.

Life is no Nirvana and was never meant to be, as a child I believed in fairy tales and that music played in the air at those memorable times like kissing someone for the first time….. grrrrrr NOT TRUE… shame on the movies and fairy tale stories like Cinderella… it’s all a story.

We can still enjoy movies and fairy tales but just don’t hang on to them like they should be defining who we are, how we should be living our life and how it must turn out.  We make up a story about ourselves and what happened in our lives and keep rewinding it and playing it over and over again in our mind an in our conversations with the people we meet. We just don’t let it go!

Everyone has a monkey on their back reminding us of dramatic times or a situation in our life that just doesn’t seem to go away.

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There will always be peaks, troughs and hard, easy times. That will never change and we can never control them, but how we look at these situations, deal with them and control our reactions is what makes the difference.

I once read in a beautiful book by Mo Gwadat, Solve for Happy a line that changed the way I looked at these challenges in my life.

‘The gravity of those at battle, mean nothing to those at peace’ 

My favourite story that reminds me every day the monkey I’m dealing with in my mind.

A Cherokee Legend – An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. ‘a fight is going on inside me’ he said to the boy. ‘it is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego’

He continued, ‘the other is good- he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person too’ the grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, ‘which wolf will win?’ The old Cherokee simply replied, ‘the one you feed’

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Learning out to dissect the story going on in our minds into individual slides is like working out ‘What you believe happened’ and “what actually happened’ It can be a matter of perspective when you drill it down into segments and from that place you can see the big picture, accept the story for what it is and perhaps laugh about it and ask yourself what purpose is it serving you at the moment and then finally let it go.

It may be a long process or a short process but starting somewhere will help you bounce back from the adversity that is holding you back from achieving your dreams, goals and feeling fulfilled.

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Sandra Larkin

Author Sandra Larkin

Sandra Larkin has worked in the service and sales sector of business for the past 38 years. Her experience spans across a broad spectrum of skill sets from providing excellent customer service, achieving high volume sales, organising professional development programs, establishing professional networks, building long-term relationships and securing high-level sponsorships.   Her tools and resources help give clients a practical strategy by following steps to discover their true potential and capability to achieve success.

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