Over the next few months I will be sharing my Stages of Change Ladder Series where I’ll describe in each Blog the 7 stages of change, starting from the bottom of the ladder with Depression to the top at Success. I hope you enjoy the series and if you feel the need to forward and share the message to someone you think may benefit from it, please do.

Depression affects most of us in today’s world at some point of our life and a state of melancholy affects all of us most of the time and anyone that tells you different, isn’t facing up to it!

According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics in the National Survey of Health & Wellbeing:

  • Depression is the most common mental disorder affecting Australians & makes up 4.8% of the total disease burden making it the third leading cause of disability burden in Australia
  • 1 in 5 Australians experience mental illness
  • 14% or Australians will be affected by an anxiety disorder in a 12 month period
  • Around 1 in 9 adults experienced high or very high levels of psychological distress
  • Mental disorders and depression accounts for an averaged 3 days out of a role over a four-week period compared to one day out of a role for people with no physical or mental condition.

Astounding facts isn’t it? No wonder we have so many unhappy and discontent people in the world!

All of us experience melancholy moments and that is completely normal, you wouldn’t be normal if you didn’t. It’s called being sad and this can be caused from incidents that happen in our life out of our control. Most of us don’t like facing up to our feelings or admit it for being thought of as weak.

Well you know what? ‘It Ain’t Weak to Speak

“There is a face we choose to show the world and the face no one gets to see”

At the depression stage we experience emotions of loneliness and anxiety and don’t know what is wrong with us. At this stage there is no energy and it’s an effort to get out of bed to face the world. Our effectiveness is negative in anything we do at this stage.

LIVIN is a foundation on the Gold Coast, Co-founded by Casey Lyons and Sam Webb in September 2013, in honour of Casey’s best friend Dwayne Lally and other close friends and family of the co-founders who took their own lives after suffering from a mental illness that no one knew about. LIVIN is all about destroying the stigma attached to mental illness and supporting and inspiring one another to talk about their feelings, issues and problems because “It Ain’t Weak to Speak” and you are never alone.

“For too long mental illness and suicide has been perceived as a weakness, mental illness is no different to other illnesses such as cancer, heart disease and diabetes. We will change this.” Casey Lyons



If you spend too much time in a melancholy state it will lead to depression, so it’s important to use skills and strategies to get yourself out of this state before it gets too hard to.


It’s no secret in today’s world we are dealing with higher stress than ever before and this can contribute to our mental state of being if we don’t learn the skills to deal with stress. Stress is never going to go away according to Kelly McGonigal, Psychologist featured on TED Talks. She says “we need to change our relationship to stress” 

Change Value Ladder



Success  Fulfillment
Warrior  Empowered
Action  Committed
Preparation  Productive
Awareness  Vulnerable
Procrastination   Indecisive/Self Talk
Depression /Melancholy Lonely/Anxiety

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Sandra Larkin

Author Sandra Larkin

Sandra Larkin has worked in the service and sales sector of business for the past 38 years. Her experience spans across a broad spectrum of skill sets from providing excellent customer service, achieving high volume sales, organising professional development programs, establishing professional networks, building long-term relationships and securing high-level sponsorships.   Her tools and resources help give clients a practical strategy by following steps to discover their true potential and capability to achieve success.

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