Procrastination

 

‘the action of delaying or postponing something’

‘the action of delaying or postponing something’
‘to be slow or late about doing something that should be done : to delay doing something until a later time because you do not want to do it, because you are lazy, etc’
Source: Merriam-Webster’s Learner’s Dictionary

Welcome to the second level of the Stages of Change series. In my previous Blog I shared about depression and how in this state we don’t always know what’s wrong with us. In this blog I’ll be sharing about procrastination, the next level of change. At this level we know something is wrong but we don’t know what’s wrong.

Procrastination can affect us in our personal life or our professional life or in both. We can all experience a little procrastination in our lives at times, however, the true stereotype ‘procrastinator’ is a whole different thing! They can feel lonely at times even though they won’t admit it or tell you. They can be sensitive, defensive and react to situations without reason. Their reaction will come from frustration as a dislike of being the way they are and not knowing how to be any different. Motivation doesn’t come easy to them and seems like a ‘dirty’ word and best not used around them.

Their energy levels can fluctuate from high to low in one day and can be very  contagious and destructive to the people they spend most of their time with. They thrive on the energy of other people more than most and can tend to swing from melancholy to depression quite easily.

My experience with procrastinators is expression. The more they express how they feel the less they feel depressed and overwhelmed by this state.

Until we want to change the way we are bad enough we’re happy to stay as a procrastinator despite the cost to our loved ones or our jobs.

It’s a bit like a smoker, until you have full conviction in your heart that you want to be healthy person more than be a smoker, you will never give it up. You can try all the methods available and listen to the ‘How to Quit Smoking’ CD’s numerous times but it won’t work unless you want it bad enough! Believe me I know as this was me in a previous life!

At this level procrastinators can become obsessed with a lot of self talk, indecisiveness, inquisitive, argumentative, factual and almost annoying. They can feel shame about being this way and try to hide it.

Brene Brown says ‘shame brings us to one of three reactions: Fight, Flight or Freeze’ Shame has the same affect on our bodies as stress. It will tell the adrenal glands to release the cortisol hormone so we can cope with what we’re experiencing.

JK Rowling author of Harry Potter says ‘at rock bottom became the solid foundation of where I rebuilt my life…..in life it is not what happened to us that determines who we become but rather how we choose to interpret what happens to us and therefore who we become as a result

It’s a good day when the procrastinator becomes aware of their behaviour and the affect it has on themselves and the people around them. This is the Awareness stage which I’ll share more about in my blog in 2 weeks time.

Stay with me!

Change Ladder

Stages

Emotion

Success  Fulfillment
Warrior  Empowered
Action  Committed
Preparation  Productive
Awareness  Vulnerable
Procrastination   Indecisive/Self Talk
Depression /Melancholy Lonely/Anxiety

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Sandra Larkin has worked in the service and sales sector of business for the past 38 years. Her experience spans across a broad spectrum of skill sets from providing excellent customer service, achieving high volume sales, organising professional development programs, establishing professional networks, building long-term relationships and securing high-level sponsorships.   Her tools and resources help give clients a practical strategy by following steps to discover their true potential and capability to achieve success.

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