After intense research and preparation finding ways we can change the behaviour we set out to improve on, we then move to applying action. We’ve sought professional help and engaged either a trainer, dietitian, counsellor, mentor, coach or professional advisor to assist in a strategy to change the behaviour.

Our energy levels start to improve with a new found direction in place. We start the journey feeling motivated and enthusiastic and apply great commitment. We feel more secure with the application of boundaries and the vision of our end goal seemingly closer than we’ve ever seen before. We may even start to meditate and practice intense discipline and focus every day. We don’t react to the things people say as much and we choose not to let small things effect how we’re going to feel that day. We don’t sweat the small stuff!

We don’t sway from our direction and the days become more productive. We begin to believe in the outcome and whilst there are still ups and downs, the peaks and troughs become less intense. We spend less time in the troughs and get ourselves out of them faster.  We have something to look forward to that gets us out of this low. We have started training our neural-pathways a new direction of thought patterns. 

So, what is Neural Pathways?

Let’s start with Neuroscience – noun neu·ro·sci·ence
Simple definition of neuroscience: the scientific study of nerves and especially of how nerves affect learning and behavior

What is Neural Pathway?

Written by Pam MS, NCSP – A mass of complicated routes of which is followed by a nerve impulse which travels through either the central or peripheral nerve fibres of the central nervous system. 

Victoria Lorient-Faibish MEd, CCC, RPP, RPE writes from Neural Pathways, The biology of Change:

Understanding that the brain biology is implicated in patterns of behaviour and beliefs is a crucial piece in initiating transformation. The newer patterns of behaviour and beliefs are like footpaths compared to the highways that are associated with the longer held belief or patterns. Don’t beat yourself up if you have not been able to change a pattern that has been with you since childhood. You are up against your biology. Having said that, the more you practice a new behaviour the more likely you are to shift it to the more desired pattern you are seeking. This repetition thickens that neural pathways and makes the new behaviour easier to maintain.


So, there is a science to changing behaviours. At this stage some of us tend to only apply this new behaviour for up to 7-14 days and we go back to our old ways. To change a habit you need to stick to it for at least between 21 – 35 days to form these new neural pathways in the brain. 

When we drop back we usually end up back at procrastination stage. This is what I call hitting the ceiling! With  encouragement and help you can get through this ceiling but it takes accountability. Find someone you can tell about your new journey and ask them to keep you accountable or engage a mentor or coach to see you through this stage and you’re on your way to winning.

Change Ladder



Success  Fulfillment
Warrior  Empowered
Action  Committed
Preparation  Productive
Awareness  Vulnerable
Procrastination   Indecisive/Self Talk
Depression /Melancholy Lonely/Anxiety


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Sandra Larkin has worked in the service and sales sector of business for the past 38 years. Her experience spans across a broad spectrum of skill sets from providing excellent customer service, achieving high volume sales, organising professional development programs, establishing professional networks, building long-term relationships and securing high-level sponsorships.   Her tools and resources help give clients a practical strategy by following steps to discover their true potential and capability to achieve success.

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