Thinker v Thoughts

Did you know there is a difference between the Thinker and the Thoughts?

 We beat ourselves up at times over some thoughts we think! I know I have and on these occasions I’ve said to myself  ‘Self, I can’t believe you just thought that!’

The reality is, in how I say that statement to myself, I didn’t say ‘Sandra I can’t believe what you just thought about that person‘ as that would make it so much more personal and be beating myself up. By changing my name to Self and I to you I have detached the Thinker from the Thoughts!

Interesting concept isn’t it? Try it for a moment and see how different it feels to split you and self in to two separate identities. 

The reality is, we are not our thoughts, there is the thinker which is ourselves, our brains and there are the thoughts which is uncontrollable endless data coming in and out of our minds every millisecond of the day. That’s a lot of data! We speak around 6,000 – 8,000 words a day and think tens of thousands more!

So, now I want you to think of your brain like a computer storage system that archives some data and holds on to useful relevant data that needs to be used on a regular basis. When it gets too overloaded it will spit out unnecessary thoughts that we don’t even know where they came from. 

When we find ourselves spending too much time processing these unnecessary and unproductive thoughts it’s time for a clean up and reboot.

Thinking unnecessary thoughts takes us away from the productive and resourceful thoughts we could be using and contributing to our attitude and success.

Clean up is:

  • decide
  • ditch
  • delegate
  • delete

Decide is where we need to make a decision on what thoughts are useful and which are not. Are they supporting us or dragging us down? Do they have a place in our world and our daily schedule?

Ditch is where we get rid of the uninvited spam thoughts that enter our brain like spam emails. We never subscribed to them but somehow they end up in our inbox every morning!

Delegate is where we get to place the thoughts in a folder for when we need to use them. For example, naughty thoughts for the night time, productive thoughts for the day, energetic thoughts for the morning exercise time and creative thoughts for Maker Time when you have projects to start and complete.

Delete is those old thoughts from painful stories in our past that keep popping us and dragging us down and not serving any purpose in our lives whatsoever. The ones we need to delete from the inbox (brain) the trash folder (subconscious) and the server (life) forever! Never to return again!

I bet some or all of these sound familiar.

Learning to control the thoughts in our brains is like learning to control naughty children. If we don’t they will control us, overtake us and consume us to distraction and madness.

Reboot is:

  • Meditation
  • Mindfulness 
  • Rest & Restore

Meditation is so important to do when we need to clean up thoughts. Taking time for a healthy mindset through the practice of meditation is essential to learning to control our thoughts on an every day basis.

Mindfulness is being present when someone is talking or spending time with us or when we’re working on a project and not be distracted by other things. Great for families and leaders! 

Rest and Restore is time spent with no speaking, reading or listening to anything. Giving the brain a rest from processing anything at all.

Time to Clean Up and Reboot and then get on with it!

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Sandra Larkin

Author Sandra Larkin

Sandra Larkin has worked in the service and sales sector of business for the past 38 years. Her experience spans across a broad spectrum of skill sets from providing excellent customer service, achieving high volume sales, organising professional development programs, establishing professional networks, building long-term relationships and securing high-level sponsorships.   Her tools and resources help give clients a practical strategy by following steps to discover their true potential and capability to achieve success.

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